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The Power of Beauty
Friday, September 28th, 2007
Its 4.22 a.m. and I’m sitting in front of the laptop staring on the sreen feeling hungry again. Expecting to welcome the dawn of Saturday and have a pack of spicy sour Korean noodles soup cooked (after watching some Korean sitcom that allured my appetite)
Oh No!! I have been eating FATTY meals few days ago and I shouldnt be chowing instant noodles anymore, its unhealthy and increased loathsome cellulite in my body, especially the waist and thighs. Women nowadays are extremely self-concious about how they look and I think mostly we are affected by the environment factors and 20% due to narcissism.
The employer wants to hire a decent pretty lady who can carry herself well; the boyfriend wants to get an adorable stylish girlfriend downtown; the girl wants to get into ten finalist of becoming a model in reality show; the client wants Chi-Ling looking girl as pin-up model for his ads; Ang Lee in his new movie "Lust, Caution" has perfectly employed femme fatal roles and got Tang Wei as a promiscuous secret agent who ensnared her assassin (sounds like East James Bond series); & Since ancient times, the power of beauty has been an irresistible weapon to men.
Every girl has a dream of becoming a model, some took action to become, some hide it in their grey matter. In fact, beauty pagent contest has been a booming industry in this country. The Koreans & Japanese have never stop sculping their feature and body figure in order to be perfect and sassy. 6 out of 10 Taiwanese took Whitening injection to look fairer and hydrated. As for Malaysian, the rates of "Wanting to become pretty" has risen sharply annually.
Bear with me, I am not against anything. However, sometimes I wonder, are we really seeking ways to become pretty because we are intimidated by the fictiled fantasies (that we can get whatever/a big partial we want by being pretty) or we believe that looking good is part of our life. There are times where I enjoy my doggy and moggy look with chocolates during SSP (Secret Single Period), do not want to be harsh to myself on diet plans, feel lazy doing my hair and face and do not feel going out at all because it took times and effort to dress up for a date.
Yeah! We are envy on the beauty of some models and celebrities who always look glamorous and constant travelling with tycoons. Everyone is attracted by the power of beauty, somehow, we might end up choosing one that makes us feel comfortable with and love. That is when I saw a statement that makes me chew the cud:
being beautiful is like having a rent-controlled apartment overlooking the park, completely unfair and bestowed upon those who deserve it least…However, beauty is fleeting,but a rent-controlled apartment overlooking the park is forever…
S&C Season1Chap2:Models & Mortals
Hunger for Companionship/Relationship??
Saturday, September 22nd, 2007
Once a while I will indulge myself in boisterous club where everyone whipped into a frenzy for few hours before they forgot everything they did the next morning and get back with their life. People come and people go, the names that appeared in the cell phone list may not necessarily means people I knew or remembered. There were times when I browsed the whole list and couldn’t find anyone to call for a drink.
People always asked, "Why aren’t you in a relationship?", "Are you a lesbian?”, “You are so pathetic!”, “You must be very choosy!”, “I wouldn’t believe you are single!" "You should enjoy the miracle of loving when you are still young, not until 25" …
Ya, some MEN like to assume that a single lady in 25 and will be categorized under "The threshold of getting-old-&-wrinkled" and has not much choices in a relationship. These are men who fond of physical attractiveness & irrational instant reciprocal intimacy instead of virtual interpersonal communication & mutual protocol.
Under such circumstances, a lady is likely to be hastened for having a relationship yet she just wants a companionship. If she ever asked a man out, he might think that she wants something out of an innocent plead for companion. And if she never clarifies what’s between them, the term companionship may evolve into a relationship or strangers on street.
If there is a chance the question pop out again to me, I will say I am just hunger for companionship and I miss hanging out with old friends, skywalking in megamalls and sit down in cafe for tete-a-tete afternoon tea.
Relationship Vacant
Wednesday, September 19th, 2007Fragile relationships are everywhere due to uncertain temptations that occur around at anytime. Hence it is undeniable that people tend to pave themselves with Ultraviolet layers in order to protect from external contamination, physically & psychologically.
In the 21st century where "Break up" rate has increased sharply, the shortest period of a relationship has cut to 1 day or probably just a few hours. In metaphysical terms (According to Archangel Michael), most relationships in the 20th century were a trade-off around Money, Power & Sex.Whatever feelings that brought 2 people together would inevitably have to contend with the issues of money, power & sex in their daily life.
WIth globalization impact, the Western influence and Eastern misconceived result in a new phenomenon– the advocacy of complicated & multifaceted relationship. From the "L" words, "Sex & the City", "Desperate Housewives" etc to HK sitcom have drawn a series of complex relationship in a group of friends and individuals.
Apathy in city has always make me think if there is a posibility of Relationship Vacant in future that could solve instant loneliness apart from clubbing where through my observation is a way towards tension & sex emancipation for most mortal.
How possibly would it be to have Relationship Vacant?? Would it be easier for me to get a man I’m interested through mere browsing on photos & personal details than asking gfs around for blind date introductory (which I think they would rather save the best for their own instead of introducing to me) or hang out whole night in crowd realizing that I’ve been to a wrong place as there is NON suitable guys for me. We could also save some energy guessing each other feelings (P/S: My mom taught me that a girl should be shy & missish) and jump to the level of we knew both of us are interesting towards each other & want to be together. Sometimes the guessing game is way too exhausted, especially nowadays. Out patience has gone back to highschool days where we gauge the level of love with patience.
Maybe Relationship Vacant does exsist in different terms but same definition– Friendster, MSN, ICQ, Hi-5… All these channels are path that implies of relationship Vacant where it enables loners of the global to connect to each other with multipurposes. Chose either "Interested in dating women/men", or "Just to look around" tells about our intention.
Maybe in near future, relationship vacant will become generalized in this country where we need not cry for companion, just let the gadgets to do the work. Maybe not.
I am Detective *C*
Sunday, September 2nd, 2007I am detective *C* 
Browsing friendster in a rainy afternoon while sipping coffee with E.H. Many things happened lately, Its been long never heard news*gossipSs* from my friends & relatives Bcoz everyone is BuSy LOL. So one way to know news bout them is through online channel -friendster.
*E.H. is in loVe!! I felt relieve (she’s no longer nagging she is single) & happy for her. Its good when she shares her Good news with me coz it shows how much I weigh in her heart.
*G.W — gueSS she is in LoVe as well though she keeps telling she is SinGle, who would believe?? … especially when Detective *C* has strong six sense & Spy around. keke *V* –> hey! enjoy urself in Taiwan.
*S.N’s mom has married… a pretty mom who I admire of her strong determination to raise up 4 beautiful kids, educated & filial. She simply deserves what best for her.
*JeS.L is going UK & Im gonna miss her. Im sure she’ll spend good times with her loVes one.
*Y.W is in a stable relationship + career. Sure she is content with what she has.
*Saw a man becoming a dad when he displayed a pic of his *Happy Family* photo, I can felt great changes beneath the photo– Responsibility. How newborn can make a man turn into.
Its a wonderful 2007 year, I can see many good things happened/happens around, excl. ME.
2nd thought
I read a book last night– its about children who live in poverty and is studying in a charity instution. They got into that school with excellent results. And the reason that push them to study so hard (apart from doing house chores & taking care of their sick family members) is –> they believe *EDUCATION* can change their current lifestyle. Their stories motivate me, I never face such bad situation in my life; I had amused childhood memories; I completed my education without too much financial worries; I never really think of what I want(future) when I was 13. AND maybe these make me less competitive when I stepped into the reality world. Not being strong enough to handle many things. Always pop up with numerous excuses & uncertainties when facing obstacles.
No matter what, I will not want a regret reminiscence when i get old. So, i chose to plant seeds & harvest success. (:
